Sometimes starting over completely is easier than trying to rebuild your life as it was. If you have had a traumatic event go on in your life, it is common and often necessary to rethink the direction that your life will take. Once you have made the decision that you would like to have a complete restart to your life, you will need a little bit of help and support to do so. Here are some channels of support you can use when making a complete 180 in your life.
Find an individual therapist
Therapy is often the first step to making true long-term changes to your life. Therapy will help with decreasing the prevalence of unhealthy coping mechanisms, plus it will help decrease unhealthy actions or mental attitudes that you may hold. Once you are able to get rid of these negative ideas, you will find operating after a bad occurrence easier. Your counselor will also be able to work you through the traumatic experience with simple steps that allow you to heal and look back on the event without feeling scared nor afraid. Talk to an individual therapist for more information.
Consider a move
One of the ways that you can start over completely is to find a new job and a new home in a new city. This will allow you to present a fresh face to the new people that you meet and connect with. In a new city, the weights of your past will not define you, but you can use them to personally grow stronger and strive for a better outcome. Talk to your therapist amount a move before you go and make sure that you are emotionally and financially prepared to start over before you begin the move.
Give yourself a chance to feel
After something major has occurred in your life, it is important not to limit the emotions, but to allow yourself to feel the emotions. If you feel a wave of a bad emotion coming over you, such as anger, fear, or sadness, do not try to push it away to deal with it. Instead, you should allow the emotion to come on and deconstruct it. Determine what made the emotion come back and deal with it logically. If something happened that reminded you of the trauma, acknowledge that the new occurrence is not the trauma and cannot control you. If you deal with fear, acknowledge that you feel unsafe and apprehensive, then decide how to best make yourself feel safe again. Acknowledging the emotions, then dealing with them will allow you to be in control of your trauma but not allow it to control you.